It’s easy for us to say now that fairy tales don’t exist, or that “those things only happen in movies”. But, once upon a time, most of us were firm believers in happy endings. And as the years went by, our horizons broaden – we started watching other movies or reading other stories with the opposite kind of ending – and found that life isn’t that simple. Year after year, we became our own witnesses of how the magic of fairy tales slowly faded away from our sight.
We all may have different stories of loss and disappointment. Maybe you once dreamt of the perfect relationship, but things didn’t turn out the way you planned it to. Or maybe, you once gave everything you had to someone you loved so deeply… only to have them walk away, leaving you crumbling to pieces.
Relationships can be messy because relationships are made up of people, and people are messy.
Sometimes, we just want to tick off all the boxes, to ensure we are doing all the right steps to create the perfect relationship. The truth is, there is no one-size-fits-all method on how to do it all. Sometimes, we just wish there was a rulebook. We look for tips and tricks, for some sort of formula to undo our messiness… yet, all that methodology can still fail us.
That’s when we realise, that when all the man-made rules of “perfection” come tumbling down, what will be left standing is love. When all’s said and done, all that matters is love.
Our relationships might not be perfect, we might not always be right or behave right. But the point of it all is to give, to love, to hold each other tight, and that makes us perfect in our very own way. All that matters is that, through all the uncertainties and failures, we can hold on to one thing that’s certain: that at the end of the day, we always have a loved one, a home to return to.